I was around when the bear community began, so I think I'm a pretty good expert on this matter. And I know a bear when I see one. And a lot of guys claiming to be bears these days are simply not.
The bear culture formed as a way for those of us who were bigger and hairy and older (basically the non-beautiful people) to get together and socialize and other things. Then the guys who aren't bears but like bears began to take notice and started hanging around the bear community as well. Good for me since I'm a bear that likes non-bears for the most part.
Bears are called bears for a reason. In nature, a bear is big and furry. There are no skinny bears, except maybe ones that have just come out of hibernation. And what's the first thing they do? They start eating to put on some weight. If you see a skinny bear out in the woods, that's a pretty sick bear that won't be around for very long.
Today, we have all these interlopers in the bars and online. They claim to be a bear because they have a hairy chest and a six pack. That's not a bear. I don't even initiate chat with guys who call themselves "chasers" anymore, unless they specifically state in their profiles that they like bigger guys. Otherwise, the chances are they are there to meet some 20-something muscle guy with a goatee who calls himself a bear.
I feel like an outcast in my own community, and it pisses me off.
What set off this diatribe? Well, I was looking around online and googled "daddy bear" to see what would come up. I was pleased this blog came up on the first page. But, I also noticed this picture:
This was on an artist's website, and the title is "Big Daddy Bear, Sexy Nude Bear Man." No fucking way. This guy is about as much of a big daddy bear as I am a skinny twink.This is a bear:
This is a bear and he probably doesn't even know it:
4 comments:
if it wasnt for those stupid head phones (you wouldnt ever wear those things) that couldve been a picture of you.
i agree completely.
Thanks and kudos from The Indian Territory. As with, say, cigars and Harley-Davidsons; something remarkable and admirable begins, others cut-in and begin to dilute it and these days a fellow can be clean-shaven, skinny, and "campy" yet they still call him a "Bear." Right: and George W. Bush is a VietNam vet. Partly since I remember when the Bear Community (if that ain't in and of itself an oxymoron) started I no longer refer to myself as a "Bear," beard notwithstanding. In fact even if you're Dusty Hill or any other bearded fellow you can quote what Pat McGoohan (who also has raised a beard) said in "The Prisoner": "I am not a Bear--I am a human being!"
(Oh, well; six-of-one, half-a-dozen of another.)
Bravo your comments Sir; so long as there are a few fellows such as you left in this world there is still some hope.
(I'll close with a "screen name" or such as that appears to be the custom...but if you wish to visit later feel free to G-Mail me at your liesure.)
-Reb (as in Rebel Ed)
P. S. (from the Reb): Dang, I near forgot; a bear does not bark. A bear does not go "woof" (a dog does, but...c'mon.) Why the Sam Hill did this "woof" Beautiful Sunshine become an alleged ways for Bears to meet and congratulate each other? Oh yeah; when a skinny, clean shaven, multi-pierced and muscled 19 year old with a big wee-wee could get called a "bear"and nobody laughs. If this were a joke it still wouldn't be funny.
You are definitely right! Slim, hairy guys shouldn't call themselves bears, they just don't emit that charisma.
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