Am I the only one who find this odd? I've been seeing these kinds of postings a lot lately......

"I prefer white guys between 25 and 27 years old, redhead with green eyes. No facial hair. Smooth on top, but really hairy from the waist down. 5'10 to 5'11" and 150 to 155 lbs. But not set in stone."

What's up with Gay Porn?

Maybe it's just me, but it sure seems like gay porn is really starting to suck these days. I don't know what it is, but it seems like you have to wade through a lot of crap to find anything decent. Maybe it's because porn is all made somewhere else these days. Maybe it's the angles. Maybe it's the terrible over the top grunts and groans. I mean, come on. No one is really like that. Well I can think of a couple. But most aren't like that. Maybe it's all the tattoos. They just scream "prison rape."

I admit I'm pretty picky about my porn. There are so many things I don't want to see, and a few must-haves to make my porn enjoyable. For one thing, I hate outdoor scenes. I also don't like sex on a pool table, a ladder, hanging on the side of a pool, on a diving board, or a pool lounge chair. And I really, really hate anything that looks dirty, like those euromovies where the guys are fucking in some room that's full of graffiti. I've seen that room in several movies. It reminds me of hostel. Like those guys will be taken away to some dark torture chamber when they're done.

Well for whatever reason, I just find an awful lot of gay porn these days leaves me kind of limp.

It really is your mother's fault....

I have absolutely no doubt that people are born gay. I find it really infuriating when the right-wing nutjobs claim that I somehow chose to be gay. Yeah, right. At some point in my life I decided that I was going to set aside my natural heterosexual inclination, despite all the negative societal issues that come with that, and become part of the one group of people that it's still perfectly OK to hate publicly.

Of course that is such a load of crap that it's laughable. Unless you're insane, which is probably the case for most of the haters out there.

The bottom line is I was gay when I came out of the womb. There was never a time when I was the least bit curious about girls. The only thing I "chose" was to accept myself for what I was, and quit living the lie. Quit believing it was just a phase that I would grow out of some day. Fortunately, I made that "choice" when I was 19 and in college, not after I had already married a girl, had kids, and screwed up several lives.

So what is it that makes someone gay? Over the last 20-30 years scientists have been looking for that answer. There have been numerous tantalizing studies, but so far the "gay gene" remains elusive.

I don't think there is a gay gene. I do, however, believe something happens during pregnancy that sends one down the straight and narrow path, or down the gay path. I'm convinced it has something to do with the fact that we all start out as female, and only after the introduction of a hell of a lot of hormones, do we morph into males.

Another interesting study showed up in the Advocate this week. It says that a hormone treatment given to women of babies who are at risk for ambiguous genitalia also decreases the chance the baby will grow up gay.

My first thought was "what the hell is ambiguous genitalia?" There's not much ambiguous about the difference between a male and a female. You either have a peepee or you have a hoohoo. I suppose they're referring to those few unfortunate souls who are hermaphroditic.

My second thought was "do we really want to know?" Knowing what causes people to be gay is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, if it were proven that being gay is as innate as one's race, that would go a long way to shut up the right-wing nutjobs who claim that our "lifestyle choices" don't deserve civil rights. On the other hand, finding a physical reason for being gay would give them something to screen for, and perhaps prevent. Would the medical community attempt to intercede to make sure the child is born heterosexual? Or perhaps those of the anti-abortion camp would suddenly change their stance if they knew their unborn child was going to be gay?

Would medical technology come up with a way to eliminate the gay? I hope not, because a world with the gays would be a very dull place.

The Advocate

It's funny how old sci-fi movies and tv shows predicted some of the things we live with today.

I'm thinking of the 70's sci-fi movie "Logan's Run." There's a scene in it where Logan gets horny, and he pushes a button in his apartment. Then people start materializing in his apartment, men and women. He either rejects or accepts them based on his attraction to them. No personal interaction. Just random hook-up sex.

The gay scene is a lot like that today. We used to meet guys in the gay bars. Yes, it was random hook-up sex, but usually you got to know the guy at least a little. At the very least you knew his name. Then the Internet came along, allowing guys to meet without even leaving the privacy of their homes. Now we have this Grindr thing, which is even more impersonal. You can be at the Safeway and hook up with someone in the meat department and have a happy ending before you check out.

Queer Quips.....

S: "Christ. I'm at the Ripcord watching the remake of King Kong."

Freddybear: "I'm at the Hole In The Wall watching a guy with no arms eat a pizza."

S: "OK, you win."

Thought for the day......

If you claim you're versatile or top, but all four pics on your profile are of your gaping hole, you're probably not versatile or top.

Has the Bear scene changed? If so, why didn't I get the memo?

What the fuck is going on in the bear community these days? As someone who was around at the very beginning of it, I can tell you I do not recognize it at all.

I've been noticing a subtle shift the last couple of years. It seemed that the bigger, hairy guys were being pushed aside for the younger, muscle-bound crowd.

Then the Lone Star was purchased. Say goodbye to anything that resembles a "bear bar." At least any bear bar I'm familiar with. It seems more and more the Lone Star is catering to the hipster crowd. The regulars are pretty much gone. I still hang out there, but it's usually to have one beer, look around and say meh, then move on.

They changed the music from an eclectic mix of rock to mostly dance music. They pretty much replaced all the old bartenders with young muscle guys. There was a bartender named Steve who was one of the first to go. He was the textbook definition of a "bear" and they said he didn't fit in. If he doesn't fit, then what does that say about me?

The Lone Star has a lot of theme parties now. And it's usually a theme I don't understand, like Cubcake. I'm not sure what's so special about it. They just have some guys walking around giving away cupcakes. But it seems to be popular with the hipsters.

And when they don't have a theme party, like this past weekend, it is deader than shit. I was there Saturday night and there couldn't have been more than 20 people there, mostly hipsters and their hags. And speaking of hags, could you please leave them at the door? There's nothing worse than a drunk, shrieking woman.

It just seems kind of sad to me that, in San Francisco of all places, there doesn't seem to be any room for a real bear bar. And that really sucks.

So my island city of Alameda had an election recently. On the ballot was Question E, which would increase property taxes for Alameda USD to make up for monies lost because of state cuts.

Alameda has one of the best school systems in the Bay Area, certainly the East Bay. Alameda USD concentrates on small, neighborhood schools. And there are a lot of extra-curricular activities for the students, including the arts and sports.

It certainly looked like the measure was going to pass. Alameda has always supported the school system. Everywhere I went I saw signs that said to vote yes on E. I even bragged to friends who live elsewhere about it. How many other places in this country will you see people actually supporting a tax increase?

In the end, E did not pass. It came in 257 votes short. This means the school district will have to make massive cuts, including closing down half the schools and most of the programs. Alameda will become a run-of-the-mill school district. Nothing special.

Here's the pisser, and there's always a pisser. I said the measure came in 257 votes short. It lost. It lost even though it received 65.9% of the vote. How could that be, you ask? Because in California it takes a two-thirds majority to increase taxes.

Imagine that. In California, it takes a two-thirds super-majority to increase taxes, but only a simple 50% plus 1 majority to take away a fundamental civil right, like marriage.

"I have a boyfriend, but we don't like to fool around"

One of my pet peeves is the old "I have a boyfriend, but we don't have sex" routine. And honey, there's an awful lot of that going on in San Francisco.

Other than one of the couple having a physical condition which prevents him from being sexually active, I don't think there's any reason to stay with a man if you're not having sex with him. Isn't physical intimacy a big part of being a couple?

I hear this a lot from guys in May/December relationships. And the funny thing is, it's almost always the old guy who has lost interest in the young guy, usually because he's crossed some age threshold like, OMG, 30! These old geezers dump the kid and then move on to a younger piece of snatch.

That's when I say it's time to move on. Except these younger guys have spent their 20's living off the old fart and have no marketable skills. So they're kind of stuck. It kind of reminds me of that movie The Hunger, where Catherine Deneuve keeps locking her men in the attic when they run out of steam.

Bottom line is, if you ain't having sex, he ain't your boyfriend. He's a roommate. Time to move on!

In their never-ending quest to discourage buttsex, the medical establishment has come up with yet something else to cause concern.

A recent study is suggesting that many of the most popular lubes actually damage the outer rectal cells that are the most protective against STD's, including HIV.

An online survey by International Rectal Microbes Advocates (no, I'm not making that up) determined the most popular 150 brands of lubes. Then they were tested. It was discovered the saline content of many water-based lubes actually strip away that protective lining of outer rectal cells. The worst offenders were Astroglide, Elbow Grease, ID Glide, and KY Jelly. The only water-based lube that did not damage rectal tissue was PRe. The silicon-based Wet Platinum also scored well, and did not damage any tissue.

In the ever-changing world of safer play, it's hard to keep track of all the different information. Once,we were told to use a lube with Nonoxynol 9 because it kills HIV. Then we were told "don't do that" because the Nonoxynol 9 actually damages the rectal cells. Now, we have to worry about which lube brand to use. I guess I'll be throwing out my bottles of Gun Oil.

I'm old enough to remember the day when every gay man had a bottle of Vaseline Intensive care lotion on his nightstand. Man, I miss those days. The scent of Vaseline Intensive Care mixed with ass juice was intoxicating. It had that "just been fucked" smell that I still remember fondly.

via Bay Area Reporter

WOOOOOOOOOOF!

So you know how you have the tv on? Not particularly watching it? Volume turned down? That's what I was doing tonight.

Then I was stopped in my tracks when I looked up and saw this hot specimen on the screen. Who the fuck is that dreamboat? A little investigation and I learned the show is called Miami Medical. His name is Mike Vogel. He plays Dr. Chris DeLeo. I suppose it's one of those summer replacement series. I may have to check it out.

Fuck this guy is hot. He can check my prostate anytime he wants.

Way To Go Iceland!!!!

The secret homosexual plot to take over the world and turn every straight person into a homosexual continues. Marriage equality is on the march!

The Icelandic Parliament approved same-sex marriage today in a UNANIMOUS VOTE! No controversy. No drama. No opposition.

There's a lot of hot guys there. Maybe I should plan a visit.

Why did God make stupid people?

It never ceases to amaze me how many stupid people there are in this world. I had to deal with more than my share today, so I guess that's why I need to vent.

I started my day with a particularly stupid client, and this isn't my first time at the rodeo with this moron. The woman made a major fuck up in May, even though I warned her she was about to fuck up. Today is the day she has to turn in her affidavit of performance for May, and she called me to ask "what did I do to fix that problem in May?" Holy fuck! How am I supposed to know what you did????? You're the one who did it!!!!

Later, I had to deal with all the morons who were answering an ad I put on Craigslist to sell a cell phone I don't use anymore. Holy fuck! These people are sooooo stupid, I don't know how they could even dial a number. Yet they want a cell phone?

My favorites are the ones who responded by text message. They include:

"Do you still got that Samsung Finesse??????"

"Hello i seen your ad on craigslist for a samsung finesse phone for sale in alemeda (sic). i live in oakland east Tired of fake"

And my favorite....

"R u willing to trade ur phone"

Yeah I'm willing to trade a really good phone for some piece of shit phone you have. That's why I listed it under FOR SALE. That's why I titled the post Samsung Finesse FOR SALE.

I understand some people aren't as erudite as others. I try to be patient. But FUCK, give me a break! How many stupid people is one supposed to deal with during one day?

Well, I'm glad he cleared that up....

"Hi TOPs! Thanx for looking me up! Ok, first things first...i am only interested in Total Tops! NO bottoms or vers guys wanted and need not apply. Please respect my preference as a total total total bottom looking for TOPs. What i am looking for with a TOP...i LUV to suck a Top to completion. i LUV to get ass-fucked (i luved it the very first time a Top fucked me and have ever since) i never ever have topped, so please don't ask...i don't want to be with another bottom or vers guy. i am the bottom!!!!!!"

Funny T-Shirt I Saw At The Eagle.......

Are you a top? Or are you local?

Sadly, that is so true. Especially in San Francisco. Of course, everyone from every other city in the world says the same thing about their city. I'm guessing the ratio of tops to bottoms in the average city must be something like 1:54,435.

I don't understand why so many bottoms are embarrassed to admit they are bottoms. So many guys will claim they are tops, yet they always end up biting the pillow. Come on guys. Fly your starfish flag high and proud!

and speaking of Kris Allen....

From Facebook:


Fred: Kris Allen sucks!! He's the only one I could have done without!

Freddybear: But he's so cute!

Fred: But he can't sing.

Freddybear: Honey, singing is not the talent I care about!

I have never liked American Idol. Yes, I know I'm one of the 4 Americans who don't watch that show. It just seems terribly boring to me.

But, I heard through the grapevine tonight that Hottie McHottie Kris Allen was back on the show tonight. I should have watched. He is so woooofy.

I had to pull up this recent pic of him at a water park with "friends." Yes, he's a right-wing holy-roller pentecostal. Yes, he's from Conway, Arkansas. Yes, he's married. But that still doesn't stop my manhole from twitching every time I see him.

And who's that queen in the blue swimming trunks next to him? It gives me hope.

Who the fuck is this guy?

According to Edge, Dru Bruin is the new icon in the bear community.

WTF? He's not a bear. I wouldn't even call him a muscle bear. He's just a musclebound guy with a beard and a little hair on his chest.

And I love the way he referred to the bear community as a bunch of fat guys who didn't take care of themselves, but now that there are good looking guys who identify as bears, he's OK with it.

Fuck Him!


Edge-Los Angeles

Things I've Learned From Gay Porn......

If things aren't going so well in the reality tv world, there's always gay porn to fall back on.